Bout to get a little introspective, bear with me.
A PCV friend of mine pointed out this past week that I am “all about that goal setting.” And it got me thinking about one of the ways I had changed since coming here 9 months ago (uhhh what? 9 Months?!?) In my last post I talked about being more introverted as a way to adapt to isolation. I don’t think this personality change is as drastic, but it certainly is significant. See I haven’t always been so goal oriented. Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing I love more than a long to-do list and the feeling of accomplishment when they are all crossed off, but that’s not the way that I have become goal oriented. Sure I still make lists, but I also make goals. I hadn’t realized it until Bri pointed it out, but at any given moment I have 3-4 different ways that I am setting goals for myself. Every day that I journal, I write one goal for the day and one thing I am grateful for, I have multiple friends who are tasked with checking up on my progress of other personal goals (working out, studying Portuguese, etc.), and just this past week I wrote myself 5 easily measurable goals that I consciously tried to accomplish every day. I’d like to share those here:
- Avoid sugar until after the marathon
- Eat less bread
- No TV/Movies during the day
- Put phone away while at school (wasn’t using it during class, I meant during class changes when I could be socializing)
- Do one thing that scares you every day (Thanks Eleanor Roosevelt)
Number 5 is my favorite. Because of Number 5 alone I have gotten more done this week than the last 4 weeks combined, because it turns out most of what scares me is talking to important people. These 5 things were weaknesses I identified in my life here that I knew how to melhorar. I’m not aiming for perfection, just improvement. Out of the five weekdays last week I only had one “perfect” day where I did all 5, but even on the other 4 days, I was happier. The point is, I don’t know when or why I became this goal oriented person, but I’m pretty happy that I have. Having a tangible way to see your progress is an incredible motivator, however I know it is not my only driving force. I am not an intrinsically motivated person. I am passionate, but not motivated. Have no fear though, our phenomenal network of PCVs once again saves the day. I mentioned earlier that I have people checking in on certain goals, but even those who I haven’t asked to do so are happy to step up. It doesn’t matter how goal oriented I become, if I have people holding me accountable for things I am 100x more likely to do them. It is because of this network that I am still running a marathon in July, that I’ve started journaling regularly, that I have had tough conversations or met new people, and so much more. There are even days that telling someone I was going to do laundry is the only reason the laundry actually gets done. So, while I am pretty proud of myself for how far I have come over the first third of my service (I KNOW, TIME IS FLYING), I am even more grateful for the people who have pushed (and pulled) me that far.
So, if you would like to join the ranks of people I send sweaty selfies to after I exercise to motivate you to do something active, or you’d like me to be the one holding you accountable for something, let me know! One last thing – on the topic of goal setting I have something I just have to share. There is a community in southern Moz that could use our help reaching one of their goals. I won’t try to tell their story because it is written so beautifully on this page, but please take a minute to click on this link. If you want an idea of what teaching (and more importantly, learning) conditions are like in our schools, read this story. And if you can spare a few dollars, I promise it’ll go a long way. If not that’s totally fine, check out the story anyway and keep it in the back of your mind as you go about your day – recognizing our privilege is a necessity and an extremely powerful tool for change. https://fundly.com/desks-for-mozambican-high-school
Okay that’s all for this time, do me a favor and do something that scares you today (and then tell me about it!).
Much Love,
A